Ìyá nìyáà mi.
Àṣàníàdeè…Ìgè àdùbí olóòṣaà mọ̀lété…Tribute to my mother. Yeah, it’s mother’s day, but I feel mothers should be celebrated everyday. Mothers deserve to be honoured everyday. My mother; she might not be my best friend, she might not be my favourite parent, but I love my mum. My mum, she would stop at nothing to get the best for her children. My mum is usually in her full element, whenever any of us was ill. She would go all out , to make hasten our recovery process. She drilled us with chores, all to make us better, you can never be lazy around my mother. My mother can multitask, her multi tasking habit, sent us out of her kitchen a thousand times, because if she asks you to do something for her, and you didn’t deliver on time, she would snatch it from your hands, and finish up by herself, even while she has other things to do, she would say: “Bí èèyàn bá ń kọ́ṣẹ́, ó máa ń kọ́ ìyára mọ ni.” Which means: whenever you are learning a skill, you learn speed along side your learning.. .She never cuts anybody a slack, my mother would set you straight with an ìfọ́jú, ìgbátí or an àbàrá to set your head straight. I and her never really got along well, but my mother has been a good mother, not just to me, even to my siblings, and even to my daughter. My mother; had so manyYorùbá adages, up her sleeve, each time you err. She would say: “Bí wọ́n bá ní;kólójú tọ́jú ojú ‘ẹ̀, kó ba lè fi ríran ni” She would even sing songs to set you straight; Wọ́n ń pè ẹ́ ní sisí, sisí, inú ‘ẹ ń dùn, o ò mọ ará Èkó, o ò mọ ará Ègbá, wọ́n á sọ ẹ di pàànṣárà apẹ̀rẹ̀ àjàṣẹ́. Oh, my mother…One of her rhetorical questions goes thus: Taní gún’yán fún ẹ, tó ní tọbẹ̀ ‘ò ṣòro? Ah! Ìyaalá, like we fondly call her. When I was at OOU, to study diploma in marketing, she made trips down almost every week, just to check on me, she would cook and pour in a nylon bag, all the way from Lagos, to Orù, just because she wanted me to eat good food. She would come bearing tins of milk, and carton of Lipton, because she knows I am addicted to tea. With the little she could afford to give tied to the edge of her wrapper. She came visiting me, in all the places I lived in while I was doing my diploma. She wanted the best for me, but we were always at logger heads . My mum, she would say; ah! Èmi ‘ò lè gbẹ̀rí ọmọ Kankan jẹ́ o, meaning she cannot trust any child. So, she would rather take the side of an outsider, than to take sides with you. But; she fought for me oh, one time; I remember an incident, a lady that said I didn’t greet her well, all because I said good evening, not Ẹ káalẹ́…trust iyashola, immediately she came in that night; I asked her if anybody has ever reported me to her, that I did not greet them well, she said no…Ah! Come and see human right activism that night. Ìyaṣọlá dealth with this lady oh! I felt so good, that day,it was a memorable night. When I gave birth to my daughter; I know I let her down, and she was disappointed in me, yet; she stood by me, she took care of my daughter, she stayed awake at night, just for me to sleep. She would escort me to the bus-stop at dawn, when I would leave home very early to go to Unilag from abule-egba. Ọláyẹmi, my màmá dey hustle, did I mention she used to travel from Lagos to Lome, to sell stuff, she did that for some years, before she gave up on that. What business has she not done before? She sold tailoring materials, she sold wine, she sold drinks, she sold food, she even sold peppersoup …My mama don try. She is an akínkanjú obìnrin, aboni…My mother , my mother…We never agree on anything, and she has my mumu button, of all my siblings, I am still the only one she can shakara, because I am afraid of her oh! Yes I am, because she made it known to me at a very young age that; you can not mess with me. Although I am also a very stubborn child…but I met my match in my mother. Ah! The day she inserted àtà ìjọ̀sì in my vagina!!! Ah! A day never to be forgotten…this is a story for another day…
In all, my mother is the best mother in the whole wide world. She is the one woman who I can confidently vote for as, the most hardworking woman on earth, if the amount of work we do; could be the amount of riches/wealth we have, my mum would have been the richest woman on earth.
I celebrate you today…Ìyáaalá…I love you so much. Happy Mothers Day.